Summers give me time to do catch-up reading and I just recently flipped through an old book of mine titled “Necessary Losses” by Judith Viorst which talks about the loves, illusions and impossible expectations that all of us have to give up in order to grow.
I have to quote some of the best anecdotes from the book that hopefully can change your life. While you're at it, get that box of Kleenex and brace yourself for some cryapalooza!
Note: the photos are just representation purposes only.
photo by EMS_EMT
Was there ever a time in your life, someone broke a promise of coming back? This man was so broken he got stuck in the past and never played forward.
Patrick, 3 years and 2 months, who was sent to England’s Hampstead Nursery during the World War II, assured himself and anybody who cared to listen with the greatest show of confidence that his mother would come for him, that she would put on his overcoat and would take him home with her again…
“She will put on my overcoat and my leggings, she will zip up the zipper and she will put on my pixie hat...”
When the repetitions of this formula became monotonous and endless, somebody asked him whether he could not stop saying it all over again.
He stopped repeating but… he substituted for the spoken word gestures that showed the position of his pixie hat, the putting on of an imaginary coat, the zipping of the zipper, etc.
How much do you love your sibling? Would you go limit yourself your whole life just to make him or her happy? This man did.
Calvin, twenty months younger than his brother Ted, was, from the start, the brighter, more competent child.
But as he began to display his capabilities, his mother apparently feared Ted would be crushed. Her message to Calvin was:
"Don’t beat your brother… If you want my approval you cannot compete with Ted. And now he is in his forties and he still can’t play for keeps."
Calvin now says:
“In tennis I try to improve my strokes---not win. And in golf, I can be ahead all the way to the eighteenth hole but at the eighteenth hole,---I’ll always blow it.”
Who are your closest friends? They know every skeleton in your closet I bet. But this man has a story so offbeat it'll make you wonder.
Here, for instance, is one man’s not unique description of his relationships with his three closest of buddies:
"There are some things I wouldn't tell them.
For example, I wouldn't tell them much about my work because we have always been highly competitive.
I certainly wouldn't tell them about my feelings of any uncertainties with life or various things I do.
And I wouldn’t tell talk about any problems I have with my wife. But other than that, I would tell them anything.
After a brief pause, he laughed and said:That doesn’t leave a hell of a lot, does it?"
I believe it is safe to say that we all had loved ones who passed away. How did you deal with it? This girl expressed her grief in a way that will make your heart go weak.
Jessica was five. She showed her mother the picture she had painted. There were black clouds, dark trees, and large red splashes.
“Tell me about this Jess,” said her mother.
Jessica pointed to the red splashes. “That’s blood.”
“And these are clouds. See. The trees are sad. The clouds are black. They are sad too.”
“Why are they sad?” asked her mother.
“They are sad because their Daddy has died... Sad like us since Daddy died.”
Don't judge this last story. It's tragic, yes, but it will let you grow a deeper appreciation for your parents or guardians. Here it goes...
Cecil and Julia Saunders—ages 85 and 81 respectively—ate hotdogs and beans for lunch and drove their Chevy to a quiet place, rolled up the windows, put cotton in their ears, after which...
Cecil fired twice into his waiting wife’s heart, then aimed the gun at his own heart and fired. The suicide note which they left was addressed to their children:
“This we know will be a terrible shock and embarrassment.
But as we see it, it is one solution to the problem of growing old.
We greatly appreciate your willingness to take care of us.
After being married 60 years, it only makes sense for us to leave this world together because we loved each other so much.
Don’t grieve, because we had a very good life and saw our two children turn out to be such fine persons.
Love,Moth & Fath
All of us could never bear the pain of losing someone we love. But we go through it anyways.
Our emotional attachment to each other is something doctors will never be able to synthesize globally as the cases differ very much from subject to subject. No need to accentuate the idea of how Psychology has fascinated the world over for centuries.
Every milestone in our life pushes us to different heights, make us grow to become different people but if we make it through the storms we encounter today, we become a stronger, much better version of ourself. So hold on and hope the best is yet to come.
What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Help me pray for all those who have lost hope, who in their darkest hours thought that they had no choice, whose lives were wasted and whose grief will never cease. Blessed are those whose hearts are broken.
Be an inspiration to someone today and be cautious of the little actions or words your family or friends unconsciously blurt out because there might be so much more to the jokes they crack, smiles they share, or sighs they give out.
So in your times of pain, failure, sorrow, or rejection, remember that it is okay to break down because your God is stronger than the crosses you bear. He is bigger than the monsters that haunt you and even mightier than your sins.
Enjoy the loves and laughs of life.